10 Things to Know About Dating Someone Who Loves Alone Time (2)

5. Sometimes we’re going to do things alone, but please don’t invite yourself or assume you can tag along unannounced. If we tell you that we have plans to do something or go somewhere alone, but you want to go, please just let us do it alone. Unlike a lot of people we don’t see the awkwardness in doing anything solo, we rejoice in it. To us being alone doesn’t mean that we’re lonely so we don’t see the need to have people with us everywhere we go. If you simply let us know that you’re interested in our plans we will gladly do it again, but with you by our side the next time.

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4. We aren’t trying to push you away or make you feel insignificant to us. It’s hard to give up our love for alone time when we get into a relationship because we may not be used to having someone want to be with us all the time, but that doesn’t mean we don’t care. If our decision to spend time alone ever makes you feel insignificant, unwanted or unloved please just speak up and let us know because we promise that’s not what we’re trying to do.

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3. We completely understand if you want to have time to yourself or do something without us. As people who love alone time we don’t have any issues with our S/O wanting to do their own thing. If you want to hang out with your friends and have a guys’/girls’ night then that’s perfectly okay with us because it means we can either do the same or we can just have time to ourselves. If you haven’t done something without us or had a guys’/girls’ night in a while we might even suggest it ourselves. But don’t think of it as us trying to find a way to have time to ourselves, we’re doing it because we know you probably need time to yourself too whether you realize it or not.

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2. Even when we’re together we may just sit in silence and listen or observe – that’s a good sign. When we spend time alone we aren’t talking, we’re doing other things to keep ourselves occupied and entertained, so if we can sit in silence with you then it means that we don’t feel awkward or uncomfortable around you. Sometimes we just like to sit and observe our surroundings, which in this case includes you. We love to talk to you and get to know you, but sometimes the best way for us to get to know other people is just by watching and listening.

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1. We have a huge amount to love to give and want to share that with you. We want to fall in love with someone who makes us feel complete, but who also lets us be ourselves. We’ll always want to spend some time alone, but it doesn’t mean that we’ll love you any less. If anything we’ll fall deeper and harder because we’ll have that time alone to think about all of the good memories we’ve made and all of our favorite things about you. We’ll remember that when so many people tried to change us, you were there with open arms to welcome us. You allowed us to grow individually so that we could grow together and that’s something we’ll never forget.

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