6 Totally Unfair Assumptions About Guys and Sex

As a female, I absolutely hate being stereotyped or made to feel as though I am required to fulfill a certain set of “feminine” expectations. I also hate seeing that very same situation happen with males all of the time, and yet it seems to go quite unnoticed. It’s so easy to expect all men to respond, feel, and behave the same way when placed in sexual situations, but that is not only incredibly unfair, it’s untrue. When you assume, you only make an ass out of u and me.

 

1. When sex is an option for a guy, he will always want it.

Just because a man has a penis, doesn’t mean he automatically is interested in every sexual situation that presents itself to him. Men reserve the right to decline sexual encounters, just as women do. There is a pretty widely accepted assumption that men are just trolling around searching for any available sex, and that really isn’t the case for many men.

 

2. If a guy is interested in a woman, he will immediately want to sleep with her, and if he doesn’t, something is wrong. 

A lot of women take immediate offense if a guy she is seeing doesn’t want to immediately get down to business. Many girls would take this as a clear sign that he isn’t interested what-so-ever. How is that fair? As a woman, I feel quite confident in the fact that if I expressed wanting to take things a little slower in a budding relationship, a man wouldn’t then assume I have zero interest in him. While many people prefer to engage sexually with their love interests early on, not every man has to.

 

3. Guys have no concern for privacy in regard to sex.

Girls talk. Girls talk a lot. Not only that, but we often talk with this notion that it doesn’t matter what we say because guys don’t care about a certain level of privacy when they’re sleeping with you. The truth is a lot of guys would feel just as perturbed about girls gossiping with their friends about sex with them as the girls would if they found out they were the subject of locker room stories. Plenty of men would feel equally disrespected by their girlfriend was using their sex life as a conversation starter.

 

4. Guys are never sexually self-conscious. 

As this article has pretty clearly stated, men have feelings too. They aren’t sexual super-creatures; they’re humans. Guys search different sex topics on the internet to make sure they’re doing everything right. Guys take in the comments that women make about their body or the way they were in bed. It isn’t fair to assume that every guy just has this super sex ego. Men need reassurance from their partners to feel confident, just as women do.

 

5. Guys can never feel hurt and used from sexual encounters.

People aren’t toys. No man or woman should be used in any way. Just because guys have often been known to display less emotional attachment to their sexual partners, doesn’t mean that it’s fair to toy with them sexually and emotionally. I’ve seen so many situations take place where a girl will start sleeping with a guy to make an ex boyfriend jealous or achieve some other goal and it’s perfectly acceptable because it’s just sex and guys don’t care, right? No, that’s not always right. Be respectful of everyone’s feelings.

 

6. Guys only want sex for physical reasons.

Since I’m not a guy and I don’t have to risk challenging my manhood by making this statement, I want to state how unfair it is to assume that men only really desire sexual experiences for the physical benefits that they receive. In relationships, a lot of guys attach serious love to intimacy and deeply value the connection that it brings. Even when the situation is more “hook up” based, keep in mind that guys get lonely too. Men want to be touched and held and given intimate attention too. Men are complex human beings. Though sex is an incredible act and one that men (and women) certainly love, the way that any gender handles it cannot be defined across the board. Let every person, regardless of gender, want what they want and feel how they feel.

Lexi Herrick is an writer and college student from central Pennsylvania. She is currently studying communications and working in corporate marketing for a global technology company. She’s had the privilege of being published on the Huffington Post, Elite Daily, and a few other publications in addition to her work with University Primetime. At only 20 years old, Lexi seeks to expand her abilities and completely immerse herself in the spectacular world of electronic media. Above all, she finds writing to be a vital outlet for human beings to share their experiences and guidance with one another. She is learning every day, and couldn’t be more thankful for that. Visit her website at www.serendipityandcreativity.com.

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