1. It is normal to argue sometimes- Arguing is common among humans, and you guys are not going to agree on everything. It is only normal to sometimes have an agreement. Now, if you are arguing daily, that is another thing. It is one thing to argue or bicker, but another to get angry and fight every day. Keep an eye out for the other person getting mad about things easily, or just being rude.
2. Understand your significant other’s background- What I mean by this is do not think that the person he/she is now has always been that way. People change over time, and you need to understand that who they are now is all that matters.People develop, and learn new things for the better. Chances are the person has become a better one over time.
3. Value each other’s interests- Two people are not supposed to be the same, and this goes for relationships as well. Make sure that even though you may not love something that your significant other does, that you still recognize it and accept it. It does matter that you value each others’ likes and even dislikes.
4. If you are not understanding something, always speak up and ask about it. This is so important because the other person cannot read your mind, however usually people know when something is wrong. If you bottle your feelings up, it will end up much worse than if you had confronted the issue in the first place. When you are unsure, ask.
5. Nobody understands your relationship- Do not worry what others think or say about your significant other. Most of the time people say mean things because they are jealous, or are just speculating trying to make conversation. If you get caught up in what others think, it will make you got crazy. It is not worth your time; focus on your relationship and that is it.
6. Spite will not get your anywhere- If the other person hurts you in a relationship, hurting them back on purpose will likely destroy your relationship. If you feel the need to “get back at” the person you’re with, you shouldn’t be with them.
7. Split who pays for things- Make sure that you are both putting an effort in to be generous. One person should not always have to pay for everything. A relationship works both ways, and both partners should do their part by paying once in a while.
8. Accept that no one is perfect- Nobody in the world is perfect, and you will need to accept mistakes that are made throughout the duration of the relationship. Being able to forgive is huge, and if you cannot do that it will be hard. I am not saying that some things are ok to do if they are not nice, but just keep in mind that humans make mistakes all the time.
