Why Does The One Who Cares Less Win?

The other day I heard some people talking about how the person who cares less always wins. Whether it’s during a romantic relationship, or friendship how come the person who shows little to no emotion is considered the winner? It’s like every relationship we’ve ever had with someone turns into a competition. We’re in a constant battle of who texts first, who’s the first to snapchat, who ends the conversation first or who gets over it entirely.

 

When did taking 30 minutes to respond to a text because the person your texting took 20 minutes become a thing? Why do we say things we don’t mean? Why do we play games and act like nothing matters? What’s the point?

 

They say the person who cares less has all the power; I disagree. Sure they don’t show it on the surface but I’ve seen, “the people who care less” behind the scenes. Everyone cares; it’s just a matter of how well you hide it. If we didn’t care we wouldn’t be human. No matter what side you’re on, you’re never winning.

 

No side wins because if you’re on the side that “cares less” you still feel guilty. You have this person who cares so much about you and is willing to do anything for you but you can no longer do the same. You think of yourself as the bad guy but underneath it all you know they deserve better.

 

As the person who cares more you know how hard it is to see someone you care for act like you don’t exist. Sure it’s heartbreaking, but you’re not the bad guy, or the careless bitch- you’re simply the one who lost societies so-called game. We’re taught that losing is a bad thing, but in this situation losing might be the best thing to ever happen to you. You live and you learn.

 

There are so many people who spend so much time in the grey area of things. That’s the area on the scale between loving someone and wanting nothing to do with them. People in this “grey area” will generally like/love a person but they’ll only act on it or show it when the person is close by. They’re the ones who care less. Other than that, they spend their time attempting to live. What I mean by attempt is they’re just filling the void because the thought of being solely alone creates a certain amount of anxiety.

 

Maybe I’ll never understand this power or game because for me there is no in-between. I either like someone completely or I don’t care for that person at all. I have no middle ground, no grey area. It’s both a blessing and a curse.

 

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