2Some of you may take this as a reality check, some of you may relate to this , and some of you may be offended, but quite frankly, I really don’t care. The main point of this article is for you to understand that you’re doing just fine, and to not focus on the people that don’t care about you, or bring you down. It’s time that you stop stalking random people on Instagram and get jealous because of how many “followers” or “likes” they have on their pictures. It’s time to stop looking at people’s stories on Snapchat and get pissed off when you see people having the time of their lives, laying on a beach somewhere in Mexico. It’s time to put everything aside, and focus on YOU.
There is a fact of life that some people don’t realize, and it’s the fact that many people don’t care about your well-being. We live in cruel world where you have to keep your friends close, and your enemies closer. How many times in your life have you had a friend that you thought was your best friend, only to backstab you. How many times in your life have you had a friend that talked behind your back, did something really shady, or overall did something to end your friendship? Now you’re probably thinking by now, what’s the point? Here’s the point.
A best friend is someone who is there for you through thick and thin. For example) You drank way too much at a party and you feel like you’re going to throw up. You text your friends you lost at the party earlier in the night saying you need help. Now this is what will happen.
Friend A) Will be making out with someone and not care to answer their phone, even when they feel it vibrating nonstop in their pocket. This is the person who is selfish, just wants to do them, and doesn’t really care for their friends.
Friend B) Will actually answer the phone, ditch the person they met at the party, and actually help their friend in need.
So why am I saying you need to be the person that focuses on you and only you? I’m not trying to say be Friend A, because that’s not what you should do. You should always be Friend B. However, as a college student, it’s the best time right now to really dig deep and focus on yourself. The sad reality is that everyone always has their own motto in life. Friends turn on friends when you least expect it. Friends do shitty things behind your back when you least expect it. In the world today, it’s all about competition. If you ever played a sport in high school, did you really want your best friend on the team to succeed, or did you hope that they did really poorly so that you can take their spot? When you were applying for colleges, were you really “happy” for your friend when they got into your dream college and you didn’t? In college, are you really “happy” for your friend when they aced the same course that you got a bad grade in? Think about all of these key points………
In life, there is only one thing that you can always improve on and that’s yourself. You can become healthier by eating right and going to the gym instead of being lazy and eating poorly. You can become more intelligent than your friends by being creative and innovative (yes, it’s not all about your grades in school that determine if you’re really intelligent).
My main point is this: Focus less on the people who may not always be there for you, and focus on being a better you. Always improve yourself and set goals. Where do you see yourself 5, 10, 20 years from now? The only person controlling your life, dreams, and goals is you. Stop focusing on the people that deep down may not care about you, and do you.