It’s sad seeing young girls, or young guys, investing themselves completely into a significant other, relying on another person for their happiness. I heard a quote once that really hit home: “Never let your happiness depend on something you may lose.” The average person suffers many losses throughout their life, God sure knows I have, so when I heard that it really made sense to me. Why invest all of yourself, all of your personal happiness, into something that could wake up one day and realize they no longer love or care about you anymore? What’s the point in that? In the end you’re the one who becomes destroyed, no one else. So why not invest your love and happiness in yourself? You’re the only person that is guaranteed to stay in your life.
On the flip side of being an independent person, I am one of the neediest people ever too. I crave confirmation that you love me, acceptance, and affection. If I’m not feeling worthy of your attention or I’m not feeling appreciated for the friendship or love I convey to you, I become upset. Usually irrationally. The struggle with being independent but needy at the same time is the fact that you KNOW you don’t need everyone’s acceptance and affection, yet you crave it more than anything. I guess at the end of the day we all just want to feel appreciated and given effort, but as I said before, you need to come first to yourself. And other people need to come first to themselves.
