We’ve all wanted to look like a Pierce Brosnan, Christian Bale, or a Henry Cavill but some just aren’t blessed with the genetics to go that high on the looks scale. Being good looking is almost every person’s desire, even if they deny it and say “Oh I am not following that shallow lifestyle”. Arguments so far have been based on whether or not looks matter and most sane people will come to the conclusion that YES they do matter. Now lets talk about how it is like being a good looking guy.
I was a chubby kid growing up through most of my teens but once I finished high school I lost a lot of weight, started paying attention to my style, lowered bodyfat, and improved things about myself like my posture. Another thing I noticed is that my face started to become more chiseled overtime. Soon I was rated a 9.9/10 on HotOrNot (which is a very generous rating site and I didn’t take it seriously) but then I was accepted into Beautifulpeople.com without many issues (even received a few winks). Most people don’t get into Beautifulpeople.com but I did so that was a confidence booster. Now enough about myself since I don’t want to brag and I am just one person.
Two of my friends are considered fairly good looking without a shadow of a doubt and if I had their permission to post pictures on this blog I would. One of them is a male model who is 6″3, Brown haired, green eyed, and has the body of Channing Tatum (call him friend 1). The other is 6 ft tall, doesn’t model but has your stereotypical Mediterranean looks, his face strongly resembles Cristiano Ronaldo’s and he has the jet black hair, brown eyes, and olive skin to match (lets call him friend 2).
I have often gone out to bars and many other events with these guys since we are close as friends. We often hang out with each other and open to talking about our life experiences, especially those involving women.
We all hear about the good looking guy having girls approaching him, so is it true?
YES!
But unfortunately it comes with a catch. I saw this not only from my two friends but many other men that people considered handsome.
Friend 1 told me that he often gets loads of compliments from gay men, compliments from society in general, and girls do check him out. Friend 2 pretty much said the same thing. Then the two talked about the one downfall.
Even though good looking guys do have girls check them out, these women are hardly good looking themselves. Most of these girls range from ugly, average, to slightly above average. Yes, it is shocking to know but if you disagree with me then watch interactions happen between your handsome friend and women who chase aggressively after him. If I was to throw myself into the conversation, I have had girls approach me but none of these were girls I had any interest in (and a lot of you wouldn’t either).
I tried to figure out why this is for a while but then it finally became clear to me why such a thing happens.
Attractive women have more than enough options and their status in society is generally high due to their looks alone. Women in that situation will rarely (actually never) approach a man based on looks alone because they have enough handsome men (who have other things going for them as well) lined up to be with them. On the other hand, less attractive women HAVE to go after the best looking guy they can find to upgrade their social status and look good to their friends. Women who are less attractive aggressively pursue (and are often unsuccessful in doing so) men that look good because they have no other options. For lesser attractive women the hope is that the handsome man finally settles and gets desperate enough to be with her.
So even though it might seem like the handsome guy is living the life, things aren’t actually like that. Women do throw themselves at such men but often these are women who have a hard time dating themselves and need to resort to chasing after guys. To them the goal is to get noticed by the guy that looks good.
You are saying being good looking is not that great afterall?
In my transformation from being very unattractive to being decent looking (good enough to get into Beautifulpeople.com), I will say my dating life has changed but looks alone didn’t do it. Being Good Looking is a major blessing (and often you can become good looking if you try hard enough) and the benefits cannot be denied in the dating world. Yet like with salary and confidence, looks are just one asset which can’t do it at all for you.
None of us sane people would turn down a chance to look like Henry Cavill and lots of beautiful women would love to be with Henry Cavill.
Wait, you JUST SAID good looking women don’t throw themselves at good looking men.
I did and I stand by what I said. If you read carefully, then you notice there is a difference between being good looking and being Henry Cavill (rich, famous, talented, and attractive). Henry Cavill is famous, rich, and talented. Good looking women want the overall package and not JUST the looks alone because they can have the overall package. There is no need for them to stop and chase after a male model looking guy that walks the street because they have a lot of quality men as options.
Being good looking becomes an added perk (and a pretty good one) when mixed in with confidence and a nice lifestyle. It can lead to lots of attractive women coming your way but if you believe good looks alone will make it happen then you are mistaken. Fortunately, even if you don’t look like Batman, you can still date attractive women.
