Follow these 10 steps to instantly increase your desirability:
1. Be Independent
This word gets thrown around so much that it’s likely some people may be confused about what it means. The 20-year-old girl who posts bathroom selfies from her job at Arby’s, still lives at home and claims to be “independent” is probably mistaken. To be truly independent means having your own things — your own house, your own car — and being able to go out and chase anything you want.
It means not expecting a man or anyone else to take care of you or to pay for everything. It means being on your own and not dependent or stuck in a situation that’s not good for you.
Plus, no man wants to be with a gold digger.
2. Have Your Sh*t Together!
The best thing a woman can have together is her sh*t. I’m not only talking about being financially independent, but finding your passion and living it, too. Having a successful career or seeking out entrepreneurship and having your own thing is a very desirable trait. Having confidence in your life and your career will also make you more desirable and in turn, less clingy.
When you know your worth, you won’t let any man (or boy) destroy it. That kind of confidence is damn sexy.
3. Don’t NEED To Be In A Relationship
If you’re single, chances are, you’re a victim of bad relationships or heartbreak. Sometimes, we cling to the idea that a relationship will fill whatever voids we have. When you’re out there “looking for love,” you will likely never find it and you will come off as desperate and needy. If this sounds familiar, get your priorities in order; there are much more gratifying and fulfilling things in life than having or getting a man.
The bottom line is having a partner should accentuate your life, not complicate or complete it. My motto is to never settle. Don’t partner up just so you can have someone.
If you are comfortable and happy with yourself, you will attract the right people naturally.
4. Kick Deadlines To The Curb
Too many women believe their clocks are ticking. It’s important to stop putting timelines on when you “should” get married and when you “should” have kids. It will happen when the time is right, but most importantly, when YOU are right.
Work on yourself first and the rest will fall into place — I promise. It always comes when you’re not looking.
5. Stay Classy
Set standards for yourself and stay classy in every way, from how you dress to where you live, to what kind of car you drive to how you handle yourself after a few glasses of wine.
You don’t want to be that chick who trips over herself and throws up in the corner after a crazy night of partying. And, you definitely don’t want to be the girl who’s always at the club. That may be attractive to the guy who wants to bone you, but it probably wont make a man want to marry you.
Bottom line, hold yourself up to a high standard and expect nothing less from anyone else.
