Why you should stop moping and enjoy a day out with your girlfriends:
It’s the 21st century: we’re in the midst of shameless selfies, body confidence and women learning to be each other’s friends rather than each others enemies. So why, I wonder, during this young and fun time in our lives, why women everywhere feel like they need to spend Valentines Day alone with a bowl of cookie dough and a sad, Nicholas Sparks movie?
Valentines Day is one of my favorite holidays, and here’s the shocker: I’m as single as it gets. If I modeled my holiday after the women around me, I would spend the day drowning in a pool of my own tears and ordering a heart-shaped pizza for one. But I’ve learned recently why I never want to be one of those people.
There’s a million different types of love in this world- Valentines Day celebrates them all. And some of the most important relationships in my life are the ones that I have with the girls that I’ve learned to rely on, laugh with, and cry with. Why not make Valentine’s Day a day to celebrate the love and gratitude that you have for the people that invest in your life every day?
I get it: it would be nice to spend the evening at a five-star restaurant and kiss the man of your dreams under fireworks or something– whatever. Just because you’re single this Valentine’s Day, doesn’t mean that you’re going to be single for every single Valentines Day after. One day, you’ll get one of those big bears and a bouquet of flowers, and it’s okay if this year isn’t that year.
I’m a big believer in using what you have to spread some joy to those around you, so I know that I don’t want to spend Valentine’s Day sobbing into a bowl of ice cream and raising my bitter, middle finger to Cupid. I want to pass out heart shaped candy to the other MILLION girls out there that will be alone this year, too. I want to laugh over a plate of waffles with my friends at brunch and wear cute outfits to take pictures for no good reason. I want to go to the spa. I want to call my mom and tell her how much I love her.
I don’t want to sit around feeling sorry for myself: I want to spread love to the people that give it to me on a daily basis.
Instead of moping, try spending the day with other people that you love—shopping or eating or traveling. Be grateful for the love that you already have.
And eat some ice cream only because you deserve it.
