4. You have a strong sense of independence.
Everyone should, but if you’re in the camp of “I can already do everything fine by myself,” you may not really appreciate the perks of marriage. In fact, they may end up bringing you down. You don’t need help paying bills, you’ve managed your finances perfectly, you’re an all-star at work, and being tied to someone else might just end up destroying what you’ve already built up.
3. You don’t look at marriage in a positive light.
If you grew up with angry parents, or an awful situation with divorce (and many of us have) you might not look at the concept of marriage and see “happily ever after.” Your own experiences within your family will definitely paint a picture for you. While not all marriages are the same, and even if you vow to do everything your parents didn’t, the process of saying “I do” might still bring up some pain.
Even if you’ve had a lot of friends who seemed happy and then went through turbulent divorces, you might want to avoid the whole marriage thing all together. And that’s totally OK.
2. You don’t want to live life traditionally.
You don’t believe in the “first comes love, then comes marriage” blah blah blah baby carriage saying. You’re totally fine with the idea of having a baby solo, or never having a baby at all. You don’t live your life for parental approval, and prefer dancing by the beat of your own drum. You’d rather have a partner you can depend on, who doesn’t necessarily believe in labels or societal norms. And nobody should make you feel bad about that.
1. You’re happy with things the way they are.
Why change something that’s already good? Redbook claims that our girl Goldie Hawn once said on the program Chatty Man that “The wake-up call every day is, ‘Do you I want to be with this man? Do I want to be in this relationship? Am I willing to give something? How can it flourish and do I want to be there?’ Any marriage, any ceremony, any ring will not define that truth.”
Not getting married doesn’t mean that you’re incapable of loving someone else. It might just mean that you have your own definition of love and companionship.
