6. You make them feel as though it’s their fault. Sometimes people think that telling someone what they did wrong can possibly help the situation, but that’s not always the case. Even though it’s important to look at both sides of the situation, you don’t want to end up making your friend feel worse. Even if they were in the wrong, you should still offer them words of encouragement and help them figure out what to do from this point on instead of telling them what they should’ve done differently.
5. Instead of offering encouragement, you just tell them what to do. You want your friend to get over the situation immediately because you don’t understand what the big deal is, but for them that’s just not possible. You may think you’re helping them by telling them to get over it or by telling them what actions they should take, but sometimes they just want someone to tell them things will be okay. You’re their friend, not their parent.
