Hello my future wife.
Whether you are reading this before you meet me, or will stumble upon it afterward, I want you to know a few things. The reason why I am writing this today is because I can’t stop thinking about you, I can’t stop myself from imagining how happy we will be. Something is missing without you even though we haven’t met yet. Let this letter be a promise that I will do my best to be the man I want to be for you.
I may not yet know the essence of the difficulties that comes with a lifetime commitment, but I have enough relationship experience to know what I want, and how I picture my life with the person I will commit to for life – you. Those around me act as a continual source of education and inspiration to know how I want our relationship to be. So here and today, I vow to try my best to do the things that follow in this letter throughout our life together.
I promise to do my best to make you beam daily — count on many surprises. Your smile will be my priority. I get weak knees when anybody smiles; imagine the efforts I will make to be the source of yours… I just pooped myself… twice… haaaa. You can be sure that over the years I will stay my goofy self as I always have been.
I promise I will always look at you with the same adoration as I will the moment I realize you are something special.
I promise to try to instigate the same sparkle in your eyes I see when you get surprised, inspired, motivated; or when you are about to lean in to kiss me.
I promise to hold your hand when we’re 80 years old with the same liveliness that I will when I cross that line to hold yours for the first time. I vow to never let the excitement of dating me die down – surprising you with location, the reason, or the activity itself.
I promise to rouse pondering in you as to where we’re going to go next — in life, over the weekend with an adventure, tonight or tomorrow with a quiet night on the back porch with a glass of wine and conversation that might be silent.
I promise to do my best to always interest you – because I will keep reinventing myself, gaining new hobbies, new knowledge, and new interests to keep you – and myself — entertained. I promise to have new stories to share with you, and maybe I’ll retell the best ones again if you insist 
; our friendship will continue to grow over the years.
I vow to challenge you to challenge yourself for the better; to make you think differently. I promise to try to feed off of your illuminating energy that will inspire me to do the same with myself. I will do my best to ensure that the thought “I am bored” never crosses your mind.
Even in grief and darkness, I promise to show you the different shades of the dark, and to help you find the tiny rays of light that are always there if you seek them; the positive sides of the worst — after all, there’s always worse than worst, better than best; everything is relative.
I promise to kiss you throughout our life together with the same stimulated hesitation as I will the first time I dare to land my lips on yours. You will always feel the passion, the spark that everyone says always fades – it won’t with us. When we kiss, I want it to slow down time – that moment where cars and buildings disappear, no man-made objects in the area, no technology, no streets, no telephone poles, just me and you engulfed in nature and our feelings.
I promise to keep our romance constantly inflamed. I promise to caress your skin’s smoothness while we’re young, and fondly run my hands over your elegant wrinkles that speak of years of adventure when we’re older.
I promise to play the games you like to play. I will be the ‘over-macho’ man, and the weak man in need of your strength. Best believe that I promise to initiate harmless fights, tease you, and make you senselessly angry – my intention only being to make passionate love to you when we make up. I promise to make love to you not like the first time, but to make each time feel special, different, exciting; to leave you wondering what the hell just hit you… yeah, it was me. I promise to make love whenever, however – I will never hide my passion for your love.
I promise to do my best to remain physically attractive for you, and I will do my best to be healthy in order to keep up with our children and grandchildren – somebody has got to teach them Muay Thai kickboxing. I’ll train you too, I want you to know how to fight and defend yourself, just don’t use it against me.
I promise to help you to be healthy, physically and mentally. I will cook for us. I will clean for us. Expect the meanest breakfasts – literally the best: traditional Armenian tomato and pepper omelet, followed by fruit salad with… well, I can’t give all the secrets out.
I promise to strive to be a role model for our children. I want both you and them to see me as a source of motivation. I want to inspire them in the same way that my father inspires me. I promise to do my best to love your family as you love them and to be by their side as much as I am by yours.
I promise to always listen to you – when you simply just want to be heard, when you want someone to vent to about something that frustrated you during your day, or when you want advice. I will listen to you especially when you don’t feel comfortable sharing your thoughts with anybody else, and to the things you try to tell me when you’re not even speaking: I promise to always listen.
During our life together, I promise to make sure that you feel as though you are the center of the household – because I know you will be, and I will always try to show my appreciation for you because of that. Being the man of the house is nothing without the woman.
I promise to never let my guard down in taking care of us, because I know you won’t be the type of person to be satisfied with the bare minimum.
I promise to always maintain the integrity of you as an individual, the individual that will not have been a part of me before I met you, but will be then become part of a unit: a hybrid, the best of two entities, where we take on the world together.
I promise to do everything that I can for you without taking away from your independence physically, intellectually, or emotionally.
I promise to create family traditions, and to make sure that your legacy lives forever through our children.
I promise to encapsulate the moment when I realize that I am in the most magnetic, amorous and erotic love with you – and to not let that feeling dissipate to the best of my ability; to relive it with you constantly, always.
Zareh ‘Z’ Zurabyan
