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Oral Sex. Do girls actually enjoy it or do they do it because they feel they have to? Well, we found some interesting findings from girls.
We wanted to see how girls feel about the topic of oral sex, and here are the findings we’ve found. The responses vary as you can imagine, and some are very interesting to hear.
Here are their responses:
1) Honestly I have given oral to less than half of the guys I’ve slept with. To me that’s a lot more intimate than sex is. Don’t know why. Guess I just gotta feel really comfortable around them to do that. And it’s not like I don’t like giving a guy head. I actually really enjoy it cause he enjoys it. I just think it’s something you should do only for people that you really care about. Maybe I just have it backwards.
2) I’m way more likely to sleep with someone than give them a blowjob, and in a relationship, it would happen in that order as well, most likely. Giving head feels so much more personal to me, and requires a different level of trust. I’m pretty picky about it.
3) For me, “slutty” is a term meaning how freely you give yourself away. Most people agree that oral is not counted as sexual intercourse but saying that, it is still a very sexual act and just because you have sex doesn’t necessarily make you slutty nor are you not slutty if you do oral a lot. Anybody can act like anything that doesn’t mean that they are. This is just how some girls would justify their means.
4) Um well I understood where you were going until you got to the guy friends thing. I know no girls who would give a guy friend who is just a friend a blow job. lol.. none at all. lol I would NEVER do anything sexual with any of my guy friends.. and its actually pretty awkward for me after a guy friend may attempt or try to hook up.. lolol it always gives me the creeps.. and I get mad at them and set them straight. Other then that.. I guess girls don’t really get feelings involved if they suck your dick or kiss you.. a girl doesn’t just wake up the next day like ” I want to suck his cock” but the guy may wake up like ” I want her to suck my cock” and either that will force him to have to hang out with her etc.. or who knows.. I mean all girls are different but the sucking **** and making out part .. I’m pretty sure has to do with the insensitivity factor..of a girl not catching feelings or emotions or strong bond for the guy involved.. plus keeping her vagina “tight” for whom the strong feelings will be for.. But myself.. I wouldn’t even suck a guys cock.. or kiss him.. I mean those are not exactly the fun things to do..
5) Actually for me blow jobs require more trust. it’s something I only enjoy with guys I really really like. So it’s more of a commitment than sex to be honest because it’s servile.
6) I give bjs more often than sex because I’m a virgin and I’m not ready for sex but I know a lot of my friends rather have sex than give bjs because they feel like whores for dropping on their knees. but they only do it with guys they know and I only give bjs to my bf.
7) Giving head is not a huge deal that should be so complicated. And true, blowjobs aren’t about my pleasure but the guys’. But “feeling neutral”, “shrugging shoulders”, “no stance?” Nah. Giving head can be pleasurable and if it isn’t, figure out a way to make it. Doesn’t the “blowjob rule” say that the at least the first two minutes are “delirious”? There’s nothing wrong with enjoying blowjobs. It’s not a “stance” but how things feel at the moment.
8) How to give your man the perfect blow job. I’m going to be very explicit. I was 40 years old before I met a woman who knew how to do this.The approach is an important part of the artistry. Kiss and caress him until he becomes aroused. Place him on his back and kneel by his side. Wrap your hair around his cock and stroke it gently with the hand toward his head. Cup his balls with the hand toward his feet. Don’t hurry. Work up some saliva and lick the shaft to moisten it. Lick your hand to moisten it. Wrap your hand around the shaft and form a ring with your thumb and index finger. Place your lips against this ring and let your hand follow your lips as you slide him in and out of your mouth. This serves multiple purposes. With each stroke the hand will hit his pubic bone, giving him the sensation that he is ramming it into you up to the hilt. At the same time, it’s controlling his depth, so he doesn’t contact your tonsils and trigger a gag reflex. It also comes into contact with just about every nerve ending he has down there. Your off hand should be gently massaging his balls. Now comes the artistry. With every pull out, apply gentle suction to his cock. Don’t give him a hickey, just suck gently. Start slowly and gradually build up speed. Act enthusiastic, like you really WANT him to come in your mouth. Moan. Make noises. Some women really do get off on having a man completely in their control. He will never forget it.
9) I don’t really like swallowing (alas!!! the consistency makes me gag), but I love giving a good blowjob, most of the time. I find it a turn-on, and in some ways making a guy completely frozen and weak in the knees is power in its own right. But as others have pointed out, it has to be with someone I am very close to.
10) Pleasure is a give and take and I’ve been lucky to have some great guys in my past/present who are very appreciative and (mostly) liked to reciprocate. If someone was like “hey baby, on your knees”, then forget it. Gardenlobster’s comment about misogyny only applies in cases where the guy is not appreciative and views it as some sort of right, but that could be said of any sex act, not just a blowjob. I’m a woman and I generally love, if not like giving blowjobs. It’s fun, I’m pretty good at it, I like the way he tastes/smells, and it turns me on. Sometimes after the blow job, my boyfriend runs his finger along my slit and gets a big, dumb smile on his face once he realizes that giving him head actually made me wet. Penises are generally fun for me – they change shape and size when you touch them, they smell and taste good, the feel nice inside me etc…
11) I don’t feel pressure, really. How much I enjoy giving depends on two things: the dude’s hygiene and how I feel about him. That’s it. If I’m not into it I either avoid it entirely or spend very little time down there as foreplay and expect the same in return. I have gotten off from giving once, because I felt a sense of accomplishment and also because it was that ‘honeymoon’ phase of what turned out to be my longest relationship to date (fingers crossed hope this one trumps it). Typically giving and receiving oral is just foreplay for me, but once in a blue moon I like to finish a guy orally. Preferably in the shower, after a weekend of many sexual encounters, which will reduce the amount of jizz.
12) For me, how much I enjoy giving head is proportionate to how into the guy I am. I find oral sex really intimate, so I’ll rarely give or receive with a one-night-stand or casual sex partner, but with a guy I like, I absolutely love it. I’m very up-front about my sexuality, but I kinda consider the blow job my “hidden talent,” so it makes me feel powerful to know I only do it when I deem a guy “worthy” and that it usually knocks their socks off. (Note: I get how that sounds and I do not believe I’m the best woman in bed of all time, but I have been repeatedly commended for my blow job skills.) So, I guess that, unlike the author’s contention that it oral sex should be about the other person, my motives are sometimes a little selfish.
13) I do really like giving head! I genuinely enjoy it. But my favorite part of it is when it’s over and my boyfriend pulls me up in a big hug and kisses me. He always has the biggest dumbest smile on his face and he is so cute and tired and it makes me happy to know that I can make him feel good.
14) I hate it because I have a very weak gag reflex. Semen in my mouth grosses me out. The taste of sweat grosses me out. Hair in my mouth grosses me out. I’ve never had a partner who understood this (I’m okay with oral as foreplay, and on MY terms) so most of my experiences have been bad. I’ve also never been in a relationship where I get anything back, which makes me a little resentful, because if I’m shoving your dick in my mouth, cant you at least return the favor with a little tongue action?
15) Blowjobs are part physical, part psychological. The real appeal doesn’t come from the physicality of it for me, but for the fact that I know the sight of me with my mouth wrapped around his dick is something he’ll have a mental snapshot of forever. Pretty sexy, right?
16) So the key for me is really getting into it. I love driving him crazy and making him make those little sounds of approval while I blow him. It becomes a game where I’m aiming to please, so with each partner I make sure to tell them to let me know when they like it.
17) Additionally, I’ve got to have a positive attitude about it. I can’t feel like I’m OBLIGATED to blow him, like you’ve said. When I go down on my manfriend, I really want to, and I suck that thing like I’m on The Price is Right and I want to win the fucking convertible. You’ve got to worship the dick. That’s all I’m sayin’.
18) I like giving BJ’s mostly because I like being in control and knowing how much pleasure he’s getting from it! Doesn’t sound like your man is telling you that he actually likes it…in that case, I would have the same reaction of “why am I doing this??” You should also DEFINITELY get something in return, hopefully he’s willing to eat you out! Work more on communication and get him involved: try a new move with your tongue or the way you move your head and ask him sexily if he likes it. If he’s still not being verbal, have a talk sometime when you’re not in the middle of things and TELL HIM that you only like giving him BJ’s when you know he’s getting pleasure from them!
19) Basically, I like giving BJ’s if I know it’s pleasing my guy and I’ll get something in return; but if he just lays there without a comment?? No more bj’s for him, that’s for sure…
20) I don’t mind too much, mostly because I know my boyfriend enjoys it. It’s also fun to watch his reactions to what I’m doing and to tease immensely. He also is always completely worn out afterwards and just gives me goofy grins, so I like that too. The only problem is that sperm completely grosses me out. So I try to switch off to a hand right before he comes.
21) You may need to try a few new things when it comes to pleasing him. I usually figure it out by gauging his reactions to things, but it could be difficult if he doesn’t do anything besides lay motionless. Research a bit maybe?
22) I love LOVE giving my fiancé head. I love the feeling of knowing that I’M in control, teasing him, knowing that it’s all me that’s making him curl his toes and go crazy from the teasing. I love hearing him moan as I do what I do, hearing him say I’m amazing, pulling my hair etc. I have never been so into it until I did it to him… Before it would seem like a chore to me and now I actually WANT to do it. We don’t have this agreement about “if you do it to me I’ll do it to you” or whatever I don’t expect something in return but get something in return 75% of the time whether it be right then and there or a little later in the day. I think sex should be a mutual thing where both get pleasure, where it’s not just one person doing EVERYTHING… Where’s the fun in that?! My fiancé and I have an amazing sex life and I blame that on our communication, where we tell each other what we want, and listen and follow through with it. We don’t shut out each other’s ideas or fantasies and it’s always an exciting time!!! 
23) I love giving my man head. I love how in control I feel if he is laying on the bed, or how he can make me feel dirty and submissive if I’m on my knees. Giving my man a 5 star blowy is the fastest way to get me wet and ready for him. And, once I get him to come in my mouth or on my tits, he eats me out and lasts forever for me. Totally worth the pleasure I know he gets. Communication is a big deal for you and how you get off. It sounds like you are simply not talking enough.
24) In all honesty the first time i tried it i could have heaved. It was not that nice but i think it was because i was not prepared for the taste, every time is different and everyone has a different, but maybe similar, taste.You should not do it out of pressure and like everything else when it comes to sex, make sure you do what you want and don’t do something unless YOU are ready to try it. But it can be enjoyable for both people, some guys and some girls like the taste of their own and even think its good for the skin.
25) For me personally..its not that bad…I actually rather give blowjobs because when I give a hand job I just kind of look at my boyfriend’s penis and wonder what it would be like to lick it or just go at it…It is more curiosity for me and I do enjoy the fact that he gets pleasure out of it but I don’t think I could say I could live w/o giving them. Then about the swallowing cum part..I don’t really mind it at all..but every guy varies w/ how much and how it tastes and how it comes out. My boyfriend isn’t bad at all and I never even notice him cumming in my mouth half the time..it’s kind of strange..but still blowjobs are fun for me.
26) I personally love giving head…when I was younger though I thought it was a horrible chore. However, now there are times I really really want it. I also don’t mind swallowing it really doesn’t bother me, I’ll admit some men do not taste amazing, but hell I’m sure there have been moments when I have not been my best smelling down there either!
27) I don’t actually mind performing oral sex on a guy but I must admit I don’t really like swallowing. I will do it if a guy tells me it’s a massive turn on because sometimes we have to do things we don’t like for someone else but generally I’d rather not!
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